Today is my second wedding anniversary. I still remember the first time I ever saw my husband. I was in grade 8. He walked across the parking lot of our high school, totally rocking his pleated pants and polo. He was in grade 12 and had no knowledge of my existence. I remember asking my friend, “Who is that? He’s cute”, to which she replied, “Devon Penner. He’s kind of nerdy looking, don’t you think?”. I mean maybe the coke bottle glasses gave him a sort of nerdy feel but I could see past them (barely).
After many years of subtle facebook stalking and praying that the good lord would just give me one date with Devon Penner. He finally asked me out. After our first date I don’t think we ever spent more than a day apart. We were opposites, yet somehow it just made sense and we both loved doing all the same things. We got married January 10, 2015. Just over a year after our first date. People thought we were kind of crazy for getting married so quickly. We’ve for sure had to learn to be flexible and adapt to life’s constant curveballs, but marrying Devon was the best decision I have ever made!
The past two years have been so different than I had envisioned marriage being. Not harder, nor easier, just different. The first year felt like smooth sailing, it went by in the blink of an eye and with very little bumps along the way. Marriage felt like so much fun and kind of easy breezy to be honest. But then we had Oakland…
Having Oakland (talk about a major curveball) changed everything for us. Our lifestyle, our finances, and our marriage. Initially we were just in survival mode. Just trying to keep ourselves and Oakland alive. The last thing we were thinking about was each other. We had to learn to pick up each others slack. For me this was the biggest lesson. Sometimes when I could tell Devon wasn’t functioning at his best, or had a really exhausting work day I had to learn (and choose) to put aside whatever my frustrations of the day were, pick up his slack and serve him. To be honest there was probably many more days when Devon had to pick up my slack. Eventually we kind of found a new groove. There wasn’t these segregated “his” and “her” jobs anymore, it became a team effort. We had to stop viewing ourselves as separate people with separate needs and had to view ourselves as one. One team, one unit, one family.
We’re still total newbs in the marriage department but I look at my brief 2 years of marriage and am so thankful I have Devon as my helpmate. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to boil him down to just being a “helpmate” -how boring does that sound? He is also many other things to me. My absolute best friend, the funniest man I know, an amazing father to Oaks, my provider (just a nice way of saying, my moneybags) but being my helpmate kind of trumps those all. I couldn’t do it without him and I wouldn’t want to. As we enter our 3rd year of marriage and prepare to have another baby (which I’m sure will be a real sh*t show) I know we’ll learn to re adapt to a new family dynamic and a new marriage dynamic.
Every anniversary I like to go back and look at our wedding photo’s and videos. It really was such a perfect day. It will always be one of the best days of my life and I am so thankful we made our photographers and videographers a priority so I can always remember the day just as it was! Here’s a little peek at our Dreamy Winter Wedding!
Even though I look like an Ork from Lord of the Rings in that last photo, it’s one of my favourites. It probably is the most accurate picture of what our relationship typically looks like! Here’s a video our incredibly talented friends at Hello Tomorrow put together for us!
Ceremony Venue: Canadian Memorial Church
Reception Venue: Roundhouse Exhibition Hall
Flowers: Flower Factory
Makeup and Hair: Denise Elliott
Floral & Faux Wood Wallpaper: Anewall Decor
Custom Gold Decals: Urbanwalls
Day of Wedding Planner: Filosophi Events
Wedding Photographer: Shari & Mike
Videographer: Hello Tomorrow