I can’t believe that I have been married to Benton for 3 years! In some ways it seems like time has flown, but at the same time it feels like we have been together forever.
Benton and I frequently go for quality time walks together. I asked him on our walk what he has learned through the 3 years, here is a combo of both of us:
1. Pick your battles:
When we first got married we seemed to fight over stupid things. I think as time goes on you get less and less passionate about the little things. Now we try to save our energy for the big stuff 🙂
2. You aren’t always right:
Ok… so I think I am usually right and will fight to the death. My poor husband. Being married makes me realize that sometimes it’s ok to be wrong and to lose some battles.
3. Your spouse is not you:
DUH! No, but really. Your spouse doesn’t think like you, act like you and certainly didn’t grow up like you. Therefore, sometimes they will not find the joke you made funny, the picture you posted appropriate or the thought process you have as correct. Good thing you aren’t always right;)
4. Marriage is better when you’re selfless:
Seriously, though- easier said than done! When we have the attitude of serving the other person, washing the dishes or cleaning the toilet is much more bearable. It feels like more of an act of love than a chore and removes resentment, which can creep up every now and then.
5. We made the right choice:
Doing life with your best friend is the ultimate goal. It isn’t always easy, but we seriously enjoy doing life together. After 3 years we are both confident that we made the right choice… it’s a good place to be.